Proof That The Law of Attraction Really Works

If you’ve spent more than one minute on this site, you’ll know that one of my favorite personal development topics is the Law of Attraction. While it’s true that you can’t just wish and hope things into reality, I absolutely believe that persistent positive thoughts + right action = results. That is, it’s not enough to say a positive statement once. It’s also not enough to take chaotic action and just hope that something works. However, when “guided” (that is, you get a gut feeling that you should take action), and you do something about that guidance, that’s what I call being in the miracle zone.

A few months back, I wrote about the power of using afformations vs. affirmations. It turns out that one letter really does make a difference. Afformations start with a “Why” statement, so “I am rich” becomes “Why am I so rich?” Our brains are wired to answer questions, and it’s been proven that while manifesting, results are better when we approach affirmations this way, rather than blindly repeating statements.

At the time I wrote my afformations article, I was consciously setting an intention to get paid to learn copywriting. However, like most people who try using the Law of Attraction, I experienced many phases between my initial thought and my final manifestation. Not all of these phases were pretty, but one of my goals in writing this blog is to be real. So, unlike many Law of Attraction stories out there, I’m not going to gloss over anything, as I think it’s helpful to share my true experience. Also, I’m pretty sure that the way I went about manifesting my dream job is way more common that what all of the Law of Attraction books will try to tell you.

So, without further ado, this is (exactly) how I manifested my dream job:

Stage One: At first, I was obsessed with saying my afformations. I’d say them in the morning, before bed, in the car, in the shower, and multiple times per day. I’d also write them and listen to a recording I made of myself saying them. All of my afformations had to do with being happy at work, being paid to learn copywriting, and being grateful for my job. At the same time, I put in the legwork by spending hours looking at job postings, writing cover letters, and applying for positions.

Stage Two: After all of this work and no results, I experienced a mixture of anger, frustration, and depression. I went through being pissed off enough to stop looking for jobs and to stop saying and writing my afformations.

Stage Three: This, folks, is when the magic happened. I began to accept where I was in my career and that maybe it just wasn’t time for me to land a copywriting gig. At the same time, I moved from an apartment into a house, so my focus and energy shifted.  I can’t say that it was a conscious decision – after all, I was mostly just pissed off and tired of the job search. However, it was during this phase that I was finally able to let go and let the Law of Attraction work the way it is meant to.

Letting go is what I consider to be the hardest part of manifestation. I know when I want something, I want it yesterday, which is the exact opposite of being all zen and simply allowing it into my life. Why is this hard? Because in order to let more good into my life, I have to be willing to just forget it all and be okay with it not happening. Letting go paved the way for me to enter the next phase.

Stage Four: Eventually, I began to trust that the right opportunity would appear at the right time, and you know what? That’s exactly what happened. After weeks of not looking for jobs online, on a whim, I decided to look at Craigslist for writing jobs, and that’s when I saw the perfect internship. I spent one day mulling it over, but I knew that if I wanted this position, I’d have to act fast.

Now, it’s true that if I wasn’t truly qualified for this position, I wouldn’t have gotten it. It’s also true that I did my due diligence – that is to say, I researched the company I was applying for, I wrote a thoughtful cover letter, and I was sure to do all of the things you’re supposed to do when applying and interviewing for a job.

After the interview, I had more time to practice letting go. I prayed for help from my angels and guides, knowing that if this was meant for me, I would land the job. If not, something even better would show up. In the meantime, I was totally confident and in my mind, I already had the job. I also decided to only share the fact that I had interviewed with a few people who I knew would be 100% supportive. During this fragile manifestation stage, I didn’t want anything to get in the way of my positive vibes.

I am thrilled to say that I am starting my copywriting internship (yes, a paid internship) next month that is totally aligned with my passion and skills. I’m super excited and I can’t wait to see what else the Universe has in store for me. If nothing else, manifesting something so amazing really made me realize that the Universe can work in my favor. The key, as always, is allowing it.

I hope this post inspires you to go after your dreams. As always, I’d love to hear from you. Share your manifestation stories in the comments: the good, the bad, the triumphant. I’m all ears.

Why Lack Persists Despite Positive Thinking

Lately, I’ve been feeling slightly embarrassed about my beliefs. I have a wonderful husband in my life who is the epitome of a logical thinker, friends who would rather stay stuck in their experience than believe that something like angels or affirmations can help, and a whole society of people dedicated to laughing at New Agers or anyone who decides there’s more to life than what we see in front of us. Understandably, I’m sometimes hesitant to share what I really think.

But more than the fear of people thinking I’m nuts for being into this “woo woo” stuff, one of the biggest challenges I’ve faced as someone who believes in the power of thoughts to change our lives, is the question, “If the Law of Attraction is true, did starving children in Africa attract their situation through thoughts of poverty?” Another variation of this question is, “Did someone who was raped/murdered/insert heinous crime here attract it?”

These are great questions, because they get into some of the complexities of the Law of Attraction that are often overlooked. It’s true that our thoughts (via emotions and actions) create our lives. Generally speaking, the more we focus on the positive, the more positive we attract. However, it’s also true that the environment, choices, and consciousness of those around us also impacts us. This is another way of saying that not everything is within our control.

Marianne Williamson has a great quote on this. She says,”Starving children in Africa are not poor because their consciousness is unaligned with love; they’re poor because ours is.”*  Her idea is that, because most of humanity is focused on lack, struggle, and hatred, we have yet to find a solution to end world poverty.

It’s important to note, however, that this does not mean that an answer does not exist. We are simply blinded to it because humanity is not yet ready to embrace love. In the Western world, we simply accept the reality that most of the people outside of the West are poor, and it is this acceptance that makes the difference.

Indeed, consciousness and choice are the foundations of our reality. Fortunately, we can choose to think differently, to rise up, and stop accepting the reality we face as truths. This is as applicable to world poverty as it is to being overweight or lacking money. In each instance, there are “truths” that have been accepted, and because they have been accepted, there is no room for growth or potential.

I was thinking today how so many of us have bought into the “reality” of how the economy is failing, growth has been slow, etc. It seems as if the economy is being blamed for everything. Can’t find a job? Blame the economy. Can’t sell your house? Blame the economy. Lost a game of chess? Blame the economy. Okay, I’m just kidding about that last one (sort of).

What if, just for one day, we stopped blaming the economy, we stopped blaming each other, and we all took responsibility for our own thoughts and actions. What if we stopped accepting the “reality” of poverty, violence, and lack. And, what if we did this, not just for one day, but for a lifetime. Well, folks, then we’d all be a little bit closer to walking the spiritual path.

The question is, Are you up for the challenge?

Don’t forget, the more the merrier. Share this article with a friend. It builds good karma points. 🙂

*Marianne Williamson quote from her book, “The Law of Divine Compensation.”

 

The Showdown: Money vs Abundance

While most people claim to want more wealth, the truth is, most of us are nowhere near achieving the lifestyle or financial bliss we want. In this article, I take abundance head on and discuss exactly why abundance is so sneaky and deceptive.

What do you think of when I say the word, “abundance”? For many, this is an enlightened synonym for money, cash, or wealth. In other words, abundance is directly related to our finances. Full disclosure: I love money.

Now, before you put my head on a stake or accuse me of being the next Bernie Madoff, let me explain. I once heard a wise woman say,

Money isn’t everything, but it touches everything that is. – Suzanne Evans

Trust me. I’ve been there. When you’re in poverty – either real or imagined – it seems like nothing in your life works. You can’t do the activities you want, opportunities seem rare, and even having the basics can be a struggle. Thus, it makes sense to want to be friends with money because it’s a powerful tool that can help you live the life you want. Going further, the way money does or doesn’t show up for you can be an indicator of other issues in your life, from being too generous and always giving too much (undercharging), to being blissfully unaware (indifference), or being chronically unfulfilled (overspending).

Still, as much as I adore money, I have a real problem with the term “abundance.” First of all, abundance is often a way out for people who aren’t comfortable with money at all. Abundance feels safe, less selfish, and carries less emotional baggage than cash. Unfortunately, that kind of energy just isn’t attractive to cash flow. What’s more, the term abundance is just too brief. It’s too close-minded.

True abundance does include financial well-being, but it’s so much more.

As unlimited beings, we deserve more. As human beings, creation and increase is in our DNA. So what about the other facets of abundance? Time, healthy bodies, loving relationships, connection to a power that’s greater than ourselves, and appreciation of nature. How often do you stop to feel  blessed for the simple ability to watch a sunset? Do you appreciate the miracle that you’re alive, healthy, and that the millions of functions that happen in your body are all working smoothly and effortlessly? How often do you appreciate a hug from a loved one or the roof over your head, however humble?

You see, it’s in all of these moments that abundance lives. Money is grand (and necessary), but let’s not forget the rest of our wealth. We live in a magnificent Universe and the more we appreciate that, the more of the good things – yes, even money – will appear. After all, we bring about what we think about.

My wish for you today is that you can take a moment and appreciate the true abundance in your life. Here’s to your abundance – in whatever ways it may show up for you.

You Did What!? What To Do When People Question Your Sanity

 

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Unless you live in a vacuum, it’s likely that you’ll encounter people throughout the day. For spiritual, empathic types, it can be hard to deal with other people’s energy, especially if you’re actively trying to create something new in your life.

We’re told to create vision boards, to feel the excitement of your dream coming to fruition, and for a lot of people in visualization mode, it’s tempting to share your goals with others. After all, if you’re really excited about a new career, becoming healthier this year, or any other momentous goals, surely the people around you will be supportive, right?

So, you start telling your co-workers that you’ve applied for that new job. You tell your husband that you submitted your work of art to the local art gallery, or otherwise made it known that you’re actually making progress towards your goals. But instead of greeting you with a big hug and a, “Congratulations!,” you end up receiving a barrage of reasons why it won’t work, why you shouldn’t get your hopes up, or why your plans for success will cost you more money in the end than it’s worth.

Hopes dashed, you simper into a corner and think, “Maybe they’re right. Who am I do that anyway?” As Henry Ford famously said, “Whether you think you can, or you can’t – you’re right.” The thing is, as much as our society values achievers, if you start to rock the boat and release the status quo, you might find resistance.

It’s not because your friends and family don’t care about you. Actually, they most likely resist because they DO care about you and they don’t want to see you get hurt. Your moving ahead can seem threatening and cause those around you to examine their own dreams, and perhaps become a little resentful because of the dreams they let slip by.

So what do you do? If you’re still in the visualization/creation stage, your best option is to keep it to yourself. By all means, visualize, write out your dreams, and continue to take actions towards your goals, but don’t tell everyone about it. Instead, save your precious energy for taking action and let your results be evidence in itself.

If you must tell someone, pick a select few who you know believe in you and will be supportive. As harsh as it may sound, that might not be the people closest to you, especially if they have a hard time believing in or accepting the idea of conscious manifestation. I often find support through online communities (like this one!) or at retreats and workshops that cater to spiritual concepts.

Finally, be gentle with yourself. This rule applies to almost anything in life, but especially when you’re just getting started on a new manifestation. Remember that we’re all human. Create your own inner strength and don’t stop believing in yourself, even if no one else yet believes in you.