Proof That The Law of Attraction Really Works

If you’ve spent more than one minute on this site, you’ll know that one of my favorite personal development topics is the Law of Attraction. While it’s true that you can’t just wish and hope things into reality, I absolutely believe that persistent positive thoughts + right action = results. That is, it’s not enough to say a positive statement once. It’s also not enough to take chaotic action and just hope that something works. However, when “guided” (that is, you get a gut feeling that you should take action), and you do something about that guidance, that’s what I call being in the miracle zone.

A few months back, I wrote about the power of using afformations vs. affirmations. It turns out that one letter really does make a difference. Afformations start with a “Why” statement, so “I am rich” becomes “Why am I so rich?” Our brains are wired to answer questions, and it’s been proven that while manifesting, results are better when we approach affirmations this way, rather than blindly repeating statements.

At the time I wrote my afformations article, I was consciously setting an intention to get paid to learn copywriting. However, like most people who try using the Law of Attraction, I experienced many phases between my initial thought and my final manifestation. Not all of these phases were pretty, but one of my goals in writing this blog is to be real. So, unlike many Law of Attraction stories out there, I’m not going to gloss over anything, as I think it’s helpful to share my true experience. Also, I’m pretty sure that the way I went about manifesting my dream job is way more common that what all of the Law of Attraction books will try to tell you.

So, without further ado, this is (exactly) how I manifested my dream job:

Stage One: At first, I was obsessed with saying my afformations. I’d say them in the morning, before bed, in the car, in the shower, and multiple times per day. I’d also write them and listen to a recording I made of myself saying them. All of my afformations had to do with being happy at work, being paid to learn copywriting, and being grateful for my job. At the same time, I put in the legwork by spending hours looking at job postings, writing cover letters, and applying for positions.

Stage Two: After all of this work and no results, I experienced a mixture of anger, frustration, and depression. I went through being pissed off enough to stop looking for jobs and to stop saying and writing my afformations.

Stage Three: This, folks, is when the magic happened. I began to accept where I was in my career and that maybe it just wasn’t time for me to land a copywriting gig. At the same time, I moved from an apartment into a house, so my focus and energy shifted.  I can’t say that it was a conscious decision – after all, I was mostly just pissed off and tired of the job search. However, it was during this phase that I was finally able to let go and let the Law of Attraction work the way it is meant to.

Letting go is what I consider to be the hardest part of manifestation. I know when I want something, I want it yesterday, which is the exact opposite of being all zen and simply allowing it into my life. Why is this hard? Because in order to let more good into my life, I have to be willing to just forget it all and be okay with it not happening. Letting go paved the way for me to enter the next phase.

Stage Four: Eventually, I began to trust that the right opportunity would appear at the right time, and you know what? That’s exactly what happened. After weeks of not looking for jobs online, on a whim, I decided to look at Craigslist for writing jobs, and that’s when I saw the perfect internship. I spent one day mulling it over, but I knew that if I wanted this position, I’d have to act fast.

Now, it’s true that if I wasn’t truly qualified for this position, I wouldn’t have gotten it. It’s also true that I did my due diligence – that is to say, I researched the company I was applying for, I wrote a thoughtful cover letter, and I was sure to do all of the things you’re supposed to do when applying and interviewing for a job.

After the interview, I had more time to practice letting go. I prayed for help from my angels and guides, knowing that if this was meant for me, I would land the job. If not, something even better would show up. In the meantime, I was totally confident and in my mind, I already had the job. I also decided to only share the fact that I had interviewed with a few people who I knew would be 100% supportive. During this fragile manifestation stage, I didn’t want anything to get in the way of my positive vibes.

I am thrilled to say that I am starting my copywriting internship (yes, a paid internship) next month that is totally aligned with my passion and skills. I’m super excited and I can’t wait to see what else the Universe has in store for me. If nothing else, manifesting something so amazing really made me realize that the Universe can work in my favor. The key, as always, is allowing it.

I hope this post inspires you to go after your dreams. As always, I’d love to hear from you. Share your manifestation stories in the comments: the good, the bad, the triumphant. I’m all ears.

The Secret Behind Affirmations

Back in 2013, The New York Times quoted the self-help industry as being worth $11 billion per year.It seems like you, me, and everyone I know, are constantly trying to lose weight, have more money, change jobs, and find love. Yet, despite the thousands of dollars spent, the countless hours of study, and incredible amounts of energy expended, for most of us it’s a struggle to find the missing link that unlocks our desires.

If there’s one thing I’ve learned from self-help, it’s that the only thing we can control is our mind. As a wise man once said…

 

 

And he’s not the only one. Teachers ranging from Lao Tzu to Napoleon Hill and Mahatma Gandhi said the exact same thing. It just makes sense. When you think about it, we can’t change external circumstances. What we do have the power to change, however, is the way we think about these things. Life is a chain reaction. The way we think affects how we feel, and our feelings create patterns of behavior which create our life. So it only makes sense to focus on changing our thoughts to change our lives.

The million-dollar question is, “How do I change my thoughts?” According to (nearly) every self-help guru on the planet, the answer to that is simple. Use Affirmations. Simply put, affirmations are touted as the magic bullet. Just say, think, write, or listen to a positive statement over and over and you will become it.

Unfortunately, there’s one big problem with affirmations. If you are mountains in debt and hate your job, saying, “I love my job,” and “I have plenty of money” will probably sound false. In fact, your mind will most likely start coming up with thousands of objections, which then puts you back in the negative thought spiral. Belief (or lack thereof) is why affirmations work so well for some people and terribly for others – even those like me, who have spent months saying the same positive affirmations.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I like affirmations. On the surface, I think they’re a great idea. Plus, I don’t think all of the teachers who suggest it as a remedy for negative thinking are wrong. Affirmations just need to be tweaked, and that’s where afformations come in. Instead of affirming a statement that doesn’t seem real, afformations suggest posing your positive statement as a question. So, “I love my job” becomes, “Why do I love my job?” It’s easy to see that the mind has much less resistance to the question form than to the statement, and thus, the process of changing your thoughts can begin. Eureka!

As much as I’d like to take the credit for this neat little discovery, this isn’t just something I made up. I recently read “Afformations: The Miracle of Positive Self-Talk,” by Noah St. John. His theory is that unlike affirmations, afformations work because the human brain is wired to answer questions. That is, when asked, “Why am I so rich?,” your brain is actively coming up with answers and presenting you with opportunities that will answer this exact question.

Now, I didn’t title this post, “The Secret to Affirmations” just to bait you. There is, in fact, a secret to using these. Not only do afformations require repetition and focus, but they require something else that I believe most self-help books and programs leave out. Ready for the “secret?” *drum roll please* The secret is… action!

One reason I liked Noah’s book so much is that he includes action as one of the key steps to actually making afformations work for you. No matter how many positive statements you say, write, or listen to, nothing will change if you don’t step out and actually do something. Since we live in physical reality, each of us has an active role to play in changing our experience.

I don’t say this to overwhelm you. That action could be small. If you’re trying to lose weight, you could choose to go for a walk a few times each week instead of zoning out in front of the TV. (Bonus points if you think about afformations while you’re on your walk.) If you’re trying to change careers, you could revamp your resume so you can feel more confident applying for jobs. The point is, afformations aren’t magic, but they absolutely help, especially in the motivation department.

I recently used afformations to overcome an argument in my marriage. I simply asked, “Why is my husband so loving?,” and it was amazing how quickly the tension dissolved. My action at that moment was to say the afformation and let go of my need to be right in the argument. I’ve also recently tried out the afformation, “Why am I so thin and attractive at 125 lbs?” (with a result of decreased appetite and feeling motivated to take more salads to work) and, “Why did I easily get refunded?” (with the result of easily being refunded for a program I no longer wanted.) I’m also trying out, “Why do I love my job?,” “Why did I get hired as a copywriter at Evolving Wisdom?,” and, “Why do I thank God every day for my job?” Of course, the actions I took were to revamp my resume and to send out the job application, but I’ll be sure to update when I land the position.

If you get the book – and I highly suggest that you do, or at least pick up a copy from the library – you’ll see real case studies from people who have grown their businesses, lost weight, powered through marathons, found jobs, sold their homes, and more by using afformations. Like Nike says, “Just do it!”

So, here is my question for you: How are YOU going to use afformations today, and what action will you take to back up your statements?

I love to talk, so share, comment, and let me know how afformations are working for you.